You Are What Tell Yourself You Are
Tuesday, 5th April 2011
You may not realise it, but a huge influence on your happiness is what you say to yourself.
The words that you use to describe what is happening to you, and how you feel about things, directly trigger powerful emotions. When you see things positively and look for good in situations and in people, you become happy and optimistic. When you do the opposite, you become pessimistic and unhappy.
How often do you hear negative people describing an inconvenience as a ‘nightmare’ or a minor setback as a ‘disaster’? How often have you heard an overweight person say they are ‘starving’ when actually they’re just hungry? How often do unhappy people say they ‘can’t bear’ something when they really mean they don’t like it?
We all like rich, descriptive language because it paints vivid pictures in our minds and makes life interesting. But, if we’re not careful, it can also affect the quality of our lives. If you repeatedly tell yourself that you ‘can’t bear’ something, your mind will eventually accept that as fact and behave accordingly. This is how many conditions like phobias and OCD develop.
The quality of your life is determined by your thoughts and emotions, so try to make a habit of using accurate and realistic language to describe the challenges and difficulties you face. You’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll feel.